Wednesday, July 8, 2009
The man who had his periods....
The title might intrigue you, but please be patient. Let me first introduce the subject to you. Periods, that is menstruation. Obviously almost everyone knows what it is, even boys for you have sisters, friends and girlfriends who must be complaining about the pain at times. Unfortunately, though some may suffer from normal period pains, others are kneeling in their toilets, throwing up, having trouble breathing, fainting, feeling cold and hot and much more.
These symptoms could be the sign of Endometriosis. ( From Wikipedia : Endometriosis (from endo, "inside", and metra, "womb") is a medical condition in women in which endometrial cells are deposited in areas outside the uterine cavity. The uterine cavity is lined by endometrial cells, which are under the influence of female hormones. Endometrial cells deposited in areas outside the uterus (endometriosis) continue to be influenced by these hormonal changes and respond similarly as do those cells found inside the uterus. Symptoms often exacerbate in time with the menstrual cycle.)
Quite freaking nah? Sadly though, many doctors don't even diagnose it as such even if the symptoms re quite clear:
* nausea, vomiting, fainting, dizzy spells, vertigo or diarrhea—particularly just prior to or during the period or after
* frequent or constant menses flow
* chronic fatigue
* heavy or long uncontrollable menstrual periods with small or large blood clots
* some women may also suffer mood swings
* extreme pain in legs and thighs
* Back pain
* extreme pain from frequent ovarian cysts
* Pain from adhesion which may bind an ovary to the side of the pelvic wall, or they may extend between the bladder and the bowel,uterus, etc
* extreme pain with or without the presence of menses
* mild to severe constipation
* frequent uti's (urinary tract infections)
* urgent diarrhea
* difficulty carrying out normal day to day tasks
I have been suffering from severe period pains about 2 years after I had them. It started out as normal (well it depends on how you describe normal, for me it's bearable...) pain. Then it started to get worse. I could not even take exams without a high dose of pain killers. It was like something was cutting it's way through your womb. Am sure most girls will agree with that.
I remember I even fainted once at the SOD and had to be rushed to the emergency. Now, there are things you can faint, but this I swear is a serious case. When I started to work, I had to go through it with pain killers but it was getting worse for instead of taking a 200mg pill I had to increase the dosage each time, till I reach the limit.
I remember a 1st January when my parents had to take me to the hospital and spent half the day waiting for me to be treated. The doctor even suggested I get treated with morphine. I freaked out and said no, coz though it would be under medical supervision, I did not want to depend on Morphine for the rest of my life. No way!
Now, back to my title...I was working in an Ad Agency. I was so excited about the whole agency concept, it's people whom I trusted (now I've learned my lessons) and most of all respected, especially the Managing Director. One day I had my periods at work. I had to get back home urgently before I started throwing up or so but the MD scheduled a meeting just that afternoon and he made a face which suggested I had to be there. That day I drank about 10 cups of boiling coffee, took some pills though I knew I'd react negatively to them afterward just to be part of the meeting and show my dedication.
Guess what? One day, the MD called me and told me many things about how I was the worse designer, that I was destroying his agency, that I was racist, making people feel uncomfortable etc..etc..etc..
What really disgusted me, was when he said that even he could hold his belly and cry out with pain, but he never did so. I was shocked, for I thought he was human enough to understand what I was going through. Then I thought about it...did he have his periods too? I was even about to ask him that, but then thought, oh my God! This man is so courageous! He had his periods, yet never complained the least bit! Grrr!!!! I so much despise him. He was plain mean and awfully disgusting. No wonder he never got married! Yes, It's mean to say that, but imagine he gets married and his wife suffers like me. He'll back home and say: "Where is my food? Why is the house dirty? Why didn't you do the dishes? Even I could hold my belly and cry in pain but I don't! You lazy woman!"
What I wish him is that he re-incarnates into a woman and God, please give him the sufferings I've been through so that he knows what he was really talking about. (It's very mean and bad to wish so, but I can never forget the deep pain I felt on that day. The mocking expression on his face, the tone of his voice nor the accusation that I was acting to get compassion.)
It's a shame that even today, 'modern' people think like trash.
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